Have you ever had a disagreement with someone and felt like no one was really listening? That might be because we were too busy being right instead of being curious.
Let’s talk about something super important: opinions. Everyone has them. But the way we share them can either build a bridge or build a wall.
What Is an Opinion, Really?
An opinion is just the way you think about something. It’s how you see the world based on your own experiences. But here’s the thing—just because it feels true to you doesn’t mean it’s true for everyone.
We all see things through our own “filters,” like sunglasses that tint how we look at the world. These filters come from how we were raised, what we’ve been through, and even the feelings we’re having that day.
Judgment vs. Observation vs. Perspective
Let’s break this down with three simple words:
1. Judgment
This is when we decide something is right or wrong, good or bad. It’s like putting on armor and going into battle. Judgment shuts people down. It creates distance. It says, “I’m right and you’re wrong.”
2. Observation
This is just noticing what happened. No opinions, no blame. Just facts. When we speak from observation, it feels safer and less scary for others to listen.
3. Perspective
This is how you see something. It’s your own point of view. Sharing a perspective says, “Here’s how I see it,” instead of “This is the only truth.”
When we move from judgment to observation or perspective, we create space for real conversation.
What We Say Reflects Who We Are
Sometimes, the words we say show more about us than the situation. If someone speaks with a lot of anger or blame, it might be because they’re hurt or scared. That’s not a bad thing—but it is something to notice.
When we understand where our feelings are coming from, we can choose to speak in ways that connect instead of divide.
Let Go of “Right” and “Wrong”
We’re often taught to listen in a way that’s all about picking sides. Is it good or bad? Right or wrong? But life isn’t that simple. There’s a lot of gray area in between.
You don’t have to win the the argument or convince someone else you’re right. You can hold the truth and respect theirs at the same time.
Words Matter, Especially When Things Get Tough
=””>=””>=””>=””>=””>=”2627″ data-end=”2784″>In hard conversations, whether with friends, coworkers, or family, it’s easy to forget the power of your voice. But your words matter. They can heal or harm.
So next time you’re about to share an opinion, ask yourself:
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Am I judging or observing?
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Am I trying to be right, or am I trying to connect?
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Am I listening to respond, or listening to understand?
Final Thought: Two Things Can Be True
You can believe what you believe, and someone else can believe something different. Both can be valid. When we start conversations from that place, we build trust, connection, and peace.
So next time you’re in a tricky conversation, remember: you don’t have to be perfect, but you can be kind, curious, and clear. That’s how real communication begins.
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